I am at my “UH HUH. OKAY." Stage of Life
When Acceptance Beats Argument 💅🏼
Happy April and April Fool’s Day for anyone who may have gotten fooled! Besides my birthday and favorite month (October), April is my next favorite month.
I love this month because the weather is gorgeous, the rain brings May flowers, and I can hear and see the bloom of life!🐥 🌸
Again, Happy Birthday to all my Aries out there! I have three Aries in my family so I’ll be busy celebrating all of them this month. I feel like there are so many things happening this month already and it’s the start of weddings, retirement parties, baby showers, (I joke that this is the start of “Hmong Season" aka when people start throwing parties).
I can definitely feel that Spring is in the air. My energy is back and I even started walking outside. I miss this and am reminded again of the benefits of not only physically but also mentally and spiritually the positive impacts it has on me. My intention is to get back to this on a routine basis again before it starts to get too hot!
Being in nature allows me to be present with my thoughts and emotions. Of late, I’ve realized that I’ve been at peace because I am and have been protecting my peace. This includes no longer engaging in useless conversations where I will get triggered, frustrated, and flustered. When I was younger, I had difficulty choosing my battles. I felt the need to always have my voice be heard. Now, I realized that I was that way because I had a lot of childhood wounds that I needed to heal (ouch!).
My 2025 intention is to live the ultimate unbothered life, even through all this chaos. The majority of the chaos is external, which I DID NOT VOTE for nor did I create. However, I will continue to be socially aware of all the ongoings, be educated, but I will not let all of this chaos stop me from living an UNBOTHERED THRIVING LIFE.
One of the best things about being in my 40s now is I am at my “Uh huh. Okay” stage of life. I’ve learned to detach from nonsense, not engage with rage bait, respond to low emotionally intelligent people (sounds harsh but this country is full of them), and not surround myself with people that I will likely lose my brain cells (unless I am being paid to help them). I have come way too far in both my professional and personal life to waste my time, energy, and brain cells on cheap experiences. I am expensive and will remain so.
Embracing detachment has helped me be at peace and not be worked up about stupid shit. If someone tells me that 2+2 equals 22, I’m going to respond, “okay.” If someone tries to argue with me that therapy doesn’t work and that it’s a waste of money, I am going to respond “sure!” If someone tells me that they’re going to use ChatGPT as therapy since it’s free and they would rather have ChatGPT tell them what to do, I’ll respond “Okay. Go for it. Best of luck to you!”
I’ve come to the conclusion that as someone in the helping field, some people DO NOT want to invest in bettering themselves, don’t value their wellbeing, are too close minded to be curious, and would rather be loud than observe and and listen. In the process of trying to make people see, understand, and change, I only burned myself out. I now surround myself with people who have the desire to level up, be curious, and ask questions instead of thinking that they know everything.
What about all of you? Are you ready to detach yourself so that you can keep your peace, sanity, and not be triggered by other’s stupidity? When you finally reach the “okay” stage in life, it isn’t about apathy—it’s about choosing peace over pointless battles. It means you no longer feel the need to argue, correct, or prove yourself to people who aren’t ready to understand. Instead, you accept things and people as they are and you keep forging. Here’s why this mindset is powerful:
- You Conserve Your Energy for What Truly Matters: You’re at the point of your life where you know that not every battle deserves your attention. You pick and choose wisely for things that actually matter to you. You realize that some people argue to respond, not to understand and you refuse to waste your breath. You’ve decided that instead of exhausting yourself trying to change minds, you’re going to focus on your growth, goals, and peace.
You Stop Seeking Validation: The best part of being at this point in your life is that you stop seeking and needing validation. You only NEED to validate yourself. You don’t need to prove yourself and you allow your actions and results to speak. You’re not pressed to change people’s opinions, perspectives, or misconceptions. People will believe what they want. That’s their business, not yours, and quite frankly you don’t give AF.
You Remove Yourself from Drama & Negativity: When you detach, you remove yourself from arguments, debates, and unnecessary conversations. This is not your vibe anymore. You don’t engage in low-vibration energy that drains you or decreases your brain cells. You’re no longer available for nonsense, gossip, and unnecessary conflicts. You are just enjoying your peace and living an unbothered life.
You Master the Art of Emotional Detachment: You know who you are and as a result, you don’t let outside opinions, negativity, or criticism affect your mood. You understand that not everything needs your reaction and you let things roll off instead of taking them personally. Do you really care what that relative who is doing nothing with their life says about your life choices? NOPE!
You Elevate to a Higher Level of Thinking: Do you ever notice that it’s always the people with the lease that are the loudest? You know that you don’t need to be loud. Now, instead of arguing, you observe. Instead of engaging, you redirect your energy. Instead of correcting, you lead by example. You are too focused on your future to be stuck in unnecessary conversations.
I know that all my readers are intelligent, no nonsense ladies, who don’t let other people’s opinions, thoughts, scarcities, and projections control them. You embrace and realize that the “okay” stage is about emotional intelligence, self-control, and having a deep sense of self-worth. You understand that your peace is more valuable than being "right"—so you simply let things be and keep moving forward because you are too busy winning and moving forward.
Remember my BADASS QUEENS, YOU ARE EXPENSIVE; NOT EVERYONE CAN AFFORD YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE EXCLUSIVE! Being exclusive entails being the best, being limited with your time, energy, and your brain cells. Only the best of the best get access to your currency. You aren’t
ON SALE because you’ve learned to detach yourself from the bullshit and you move on. YOU ARE LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE 💅.
